Silver and gold will not make men better. It is the opinions of wise men that enrich with virtue those who share them.
Why don’t many men seek out counseling as often as women?
1. Men often perceive counseling as an unfriendly, even unsafe environment. They believe that they are being told they are the problem, and that they are the cause of the relationship conflict and they are being called in to explain their failures.
2. Men who have experienced earlier failures or losses in childhood are more vulnerable to attention given to a fragile masculinity. Men react to their woundedness by lashing out and attacking or projecting blame to others in an attempt to protect and guard against further damage.
3. Men are not wired to want to express their emotions and expose their inner feelings to others while women value the social exchange with others as essential and meaningful for life.
How to make counseling more user-friendly for men:
For more on this subject see David Wexler’s book, Men in Therapy, and various editions of Psychotherapy Networker.